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Goodness. Times certainly have changed.

Oof sorry

Internet relay chat. Put simply, instant messaging, though it is not entirely that.

Oh ok

5:56 AM

I still only half understood that but I think I get what you mean

Suffice to say, IRC was replaced by Discord

Oh right ok

Though there are other more niche discords than this one where the old IRC members are more likely to be

Fair enough

I see.

Cri The Cryptid

I still only half understood that but I think I get what you mean

Basically those old-timey consoles where people would just send text to each other

6:17 AM

no fancy emojis or profile pictures or anything, just text

Oh right fair enough

Just as long as you don't create them with the sole intention of being your therapist

@឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵ ឵Hannah - jump Meanwhile, hostie is my therapist... lookingdownsmile

Oof

12:56 PM

That is kinda ironic

Hehe...

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Something strange happened this morning. I was out grocery shopping and we were getting chorizo. Destiny is a vegetarian (and has been since I created her.

12:20 PM

Now, when I got the chorizo she said, "oh I love chorizo" . This was strange because of the aforementioned vegetarianism, so I questioned her about it and she said she likes meat now. Pleased that she finally developed good taste, I thought of it nothing more then a deviation.

12:22 PM

Except on my way home she said something along the lines of she is still a vegetarian(note: she was never a veg for moral reasons) and that it wasn't her that made the claim. The others didn't say it either

12:23 PM

So uh, can someone explain what happened?

Most tulpa traits are driven by arbitrary decision making rather than life experience so wild drift tends to occur like that when those views are challenged by anything. I'm going to guess you're talking normally comments on food in this way, so the habit of that happening overload the weak personality trait of being a vegan and lead to that response. Your personality traits are more strongly defined and you would choose to be a vegan after a couple of years of debating or thanks to culture that you were raised with or whatever else, which prevents that sort of wild drift from happening. Your best answer is to not be very strict about who your tulpa is until they have experiences and a history of consistency to back up those traits. And expecting your total but to more regularly explain their thoughts before they state an opinion can help. Don't accept "oh I like those" try to encourage the responses that are more of an explanation of what they are thinking and why they are thinking what they are. (edited)

Reguile

Most tulpa traits are driven by arbitrary decision making rather than life experience so wild drift tends to occur like that when those views are challenged by anything. I'm going to guess you're talking normally comments on food in this way, so the habit of that happening overload the weak personality trait of being a vegan and lead to that response. Your personality traits are more strongly defined and you would choose to be a vegan after a couple of years of debating or thanks to culture that you were raised with or whatever else, which prevents that sort of wild drift from happening. Your best answer is to not be very strict about who your tulpa is until they have experiences and a history of consistency to back up those traits. And expecting your total but to more regularly explain their thoughts before they state an opinion can help. Don't accept "oh I like those" try to encourage the responses that are more of an explanation of what they are thinking and why they are thinking what they are. (edited)

Well that's the thing. She has had meat before and told me she didn't like it

12:32 PM

She isn't a veg for moral or cultural reasons, It's more so yeah I tried steak,pork,etc and didn't like ut

Was that a very substantial response? Did you get a reason for not liking it or did she just say "I don't like it" (edited)

She doesn't like the taste. Yknow the same reason anyone else doesn't like food.

decide if it was a fluke or a character development and go with it, don’t thi k about it too much

Yeah I will go with that

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in situation like this exploring/figuring things out about a tulpa is 1. A waste of time 2. A source of confusion If figuring things like that becomes a habit, that’s even worse

I suppose that makes sense.

12:48 PM

Thanks kitkat

np!

I might be vegetarian myself, but I'm not going to beat myself up if I don't like meat. However, every time I tried meat I'm not a fan and I like vegetarian dishes. Oh, and we will have cravings for foods until that "damn it" moment sets in when you realize your headmate likes it not you

I have a request.

11:21 PM

As of now, I'm not fully sure I am satisfied with my names.

11:22 PM

Or my current pronouns for that matter.

11:22 PM

{One moment please}

Reguile

Most tulpa traits are driven by arbitrary decision making rather than life experience so wild drift tends to occur like that when those views are challenged by anything. I'm going to guess you're talking normally comments on food in this way, so the habit of that happening overload the weak personality trait of being a vegan and lead to that response. Your personality traits are more strongly defined and you would choose to be a vegan after a couple of years of debating or thanks to culture that you were raised with or whatever else, which prevents that sort of wild drift from happening. Your best answer is to not be very strict about who your tulpa is until they have experiences and a history of consistency to back up those traits. And expecting your total but to more regularly explain their thoughts before they state an opinion can help. Don't accept "oh I like those" try to encourage the responses that are more of an explanation of what they are thinking and why they are thinking what they are. (edited)

(as in, most tulpa traits, opinions, etc. in early development are purely impulsive, not very thought out - and should probably be treated as such, they can make more decisive decisions about themselves as they become more developed, get a stronger more consistent sense of self and all)

is that maybe part of why ethereal cant tell what kind of music she likes yet ?

tastes and opinions are developed

1:01 AM

they don’t magically appear

1:01 AM

it takes time

1:01 AM

don’t worry

nodsnods

1:03 AM

i guess it was kinda hasty of me to be idk concerned ?? kinda pushy even wough gotta work on really just letting things be

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Yeah, i'm sure she'll figure out what sort of music she likes in due time

Hi everyone (I don't know if I can post this here, please tell me if I can't if that's the case). These days I've been planning to do something special with my tulpa because of his birthday, but I'm not sure of what to do. Whenever I've asked him about it he just tells me that it doesn't really matter and that I shouldn't overthink, but I want to make something special, can anyone give me ideas please? It's hard to think about it because of his status as a tulpa, so I can't think about something . Thanks for reading :^) (edited)

me who forgets the birthday of everyone in my system every single year

4:45 AM

~~for 3 years in a row~~

Well, surprising them is hard, granted you share the same brain, so what I like to do is surprise both of us.

4:56 AM

My partner is in system, and so I tend to celebrate his birthday the most out of anyone. This usually entails simply spending quality time together, or doing an activity you both enjoy.

4:56 AM

Alternatively, if you want to get them some kind of gift, and you don't want them to know what it is, your best bet is to go to the store and find something that neither of you entirely planned to buy.

4:57 AM

I got Ben a necklace, and while I probably wouldn't have planned that, it kinda spoke to me in the moment, so I did. We've kept it for two years so far, and we often wear it daily.

I normally just spend the day focused on wonderlanding with/imposing them, doing anything at all together

5:00 AM

Basically just a day focused on interacting

For us we tend to wish them happy birthday while showering them in affection, occasionally if the opportunity presents itself while we’re shopping we’ll buy gifts in advance for people’s birthdays. There aren’t any in June so we haven’t done anything yet but on our vacation there will probably be advanced present buying for the July and August birthdays. For my partners (in-sys) I tend to do something special for them for their birthdays

Yeah, some of the best memories I have are just sitting quietly and appreciating the other person in a peaceful atmosphere.

Yeah same for us

I was planning on buying something he likes and singing him happy birthday Maybe watching a movie of his liking Do you know tulpa-host activities/games that we could try? (edited)

If you have a wonderland you could chill in there, or you could play games and let him make the big decisions

My partner is in system, and so I tend to celebrate his birthday the most out of anyone. This usually entails simply spending quality time together, or doing an activity you both enjoy.

@Seth ˗ˏˋM&M´ˎ˗ - jump Hostie usually celebrate my birthday by drawing me xD

5:33 AM

Whoops, wrong reply. Should be to OkAy

hey o/ How is it called when you try to focus on imagining your tulpa/the inner world but distorcions happen? Like the image changing, getting corrupted by "gitches" and all

distraction

ok, thx ❤️

intrusive thoughts?

What they said is on the lighter side of being described as "intrusive thoughts", but similarish concept yeah

11:15 PM

In case it helps, the short version of dealing with intrusive thoughts is to pay them no attention, to not consider them meaningful or worth your focus

11:16 PM

"Fighting" them will never work

11:16 PM

But creating the habit of always just going back to what you were doing without paying them mind, can

11:17 PM

My visualization used to always rotate against my will, no matter how hard I tried to "tie it down" or "anchor it", until I figured out I needed to stop even giving the concept my focus

when such things happen, I just go “that’s not me” and just ignore/discard them, treating them as if they never happened

Once I legitimately stopped even thinking about it, it never happened again (edited)

This is kind of a strange question, but is it possible to completely block out awareness of front (at will), and how would that be trained?

7:48 AM

A lot of us have a very severe phobia of a certain medical procedure which could be uncomfortable or painful. We agreed that we'd prefer only one person needing to endure the potential discomfort than all of us at once.

Well, I just keep my tulpas totally out of mind..

8:00 AM

But maybe your experience is different

A day to reply? smh

every 48 weeks or so, we take an entire year to respond

8:02 AM

What can I say, New Years is busy

very true

8:02 AM

it's depressing how slow the mail is, too

8:03 AM

like, if you send something out dec 30, it can take over a year to reach it's destination

8:03 AM

come on mail service

8:03 AM

and don't even get me started on the latency

That could work, but we want our original out of front too.

Luminesce ↩️

Reply to: Well, I just keep my tulpas totally out of mind..

8:04 AM

We want Atlas to deal with it.

8:04 AM

Atlas has said he's fine with dealing with thing that a lot of us don't want to do.

Anything I say "I" do can be done by my tulpas when they're switched as well, my tulpas are equivalent to me.

8:06 AM

Tewi's taken care of quite a few things for us

Yes, and our headmates have done the same. I was just wondering if there was a way to block out the front and have people not fronting be completely unaware of what the fronter is experiencing

8:08 AM

If there's strong enough fear or discomfort, it extends to everyone, unless they haven't fronted in weeks or months.

That's just not how our experience is. My tulpas only become aware of what's happened (instantly) retroactively once they're active again, if they weren't there for things at the time.

8:09 AM

I would normally consider it a good thing if your systemmates are active nearly all the time

8:10 AM

Well, we also don't have emotional bleeding, my tulpas would only be observers to something like strong physical pain-

8:10 AM

We may just have some very different core system dynamics, lol

Yeah, most of us will experience an external emotion or sensation, it just depends on the intensity

8:15 AM

People most aware of front feel it the most.

8:17 AM

We personally have people in system who are way more capable of handling scary or uncomfortable issues than the rest of us, it's kind of like their job, but at the same time, we can't really control having only them front, and the rest of us unaware at will like that.